Pain Doesn’t Have to Be a Habit

By on December 25, 2016


Everything seemed to be going so well.

My career in law enforcement was going well, my health was great, I was about to finish my pursuit for a college degree.


We were just clearing a silent alarm call. No entry, no problem, but we had to respond—it’s what we do. Then the call came to assist a paramedic unit that had responded to “man down” call on A Mountain (a symbolic little hill over-looking Tucson that was affectionately deemed a mountain).

I arrived first, went down the side—approximately thirty feet—from the roadway, and confronted a person we had been looking for earlier for the murder of his father (yep, a real quality individual). After a brief struggle, I cuffed him was in the process of bringing him back up to the roadway when he began to  resist, we went backwards off the side and down through the debris and broken bottles.

I landed first with him right on top of me—my head, neck, and spine to be more correct. Vertebrae’s 4, 5, and six were crushed. As it turned out, a lot of other things in my life were crushed as well.

In an instant, everything seemed to be not going so well.

There is obviously much more to my story, but will save that for another time. However, for now, I will just give you the Reader’s Digest version.

After two successful surgeries through the hands of a gifted surgeon, I was given my mobility back, albeit very limited. Instead of having the physique of an athlete, I appeared and moved like a frail person many years older.

After the twelve physical therapy sessions that the insurance provided for me, I was released and basically told “you are on your own, good luck”. My body showed the effects of the injury and the surgeries, as did my mental outlook. Good luck with the good luck advice.

It became quite apparent that the healthcare system had no idea how to deal with me. Go away, they implied, and go away I did.

Because of my unfortunate injury, my health, my career, my future was taken from me…or at least that’s what I was lead to believe.

So, I found a way to take a similar route in life that’s all too familiar for far too many people. I found another “black hole”—this one was more about care than healthcare. It was decision time. If there was not a readily available solution or a pill, you were out of luck. Worse yet, you became invisible.

And I made a mess of it! I made bad decisions or no decisions. I sought out new friends for strange reasons and I neglected old friends and family for bad reasons.

I pretty much sucked at life!

I had no idea what was going on at the time or why. I was desperate but I didn’t know what for. Something was possessing me but I didn’t know it at the time.

But then I came to a realization: Everything that I was experiencing today was the result of the choices and decisions that I had made in the past.

I had to give up blaming—the “pity party” had to end. Period!

The bottom line…I had thought the thoughts, I created the feelings, I made the choices, I said the words, and everything that had happened to me, in some way shape or form, I had caused. But somewhere in all of this, I had lost my contact with the universe and it’s energy and vibration. I wasn’t just waiting to hit rock bottom, I was seeking it.

I didn’t go all the way down, thank God, but close enough…close enough to realize that I was very close to that place called “victim-hood”. I also realized that I was becoming uncoachable–a very lonely and painful place to be.

It was then that road back began.

Now believe me, my pain did not go away overnight, or the next day, or the next…

I became obsessed with the possibilities of encouraging pain relief in chronic sufferers. I became a personal trainer and a clinical exercise specialized. I went so far as to going back to college and acquiring a degree in health sciences and exercise physiology. I took comprehensive training in The Pilates Method and became certified through the world wide Pilates Method Alliance (PMA).

In 2004, along with my wife Victoria and business partner, Karen, we started our own studio, Mind to Motion Pilates Plus. This was after fifteen years of hands on exploration with sufferers of resistant pain. My niche soon became providing therapy for person/s with chronic pain and health issuses…those that present day healhcare no longer had room for.

And now, I feel the timing is right to present this to every person that cares to seek understanding and knowledge of their pain.

Bottom line—you have to change your brain to eliminate your pain!

The man who complains about the way the ball bounces is likely the one who dropped it. ~Lou Holtz

What’s that old saying—if you keep on doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep on getting what you’ve always got.

Instead of blaming other people, blaming the “system”, I learned how to replace complaining with making requests and taking action. That’s what successful people do. That is what works.

That’s Why I Am Here!

What I had witnessed in our healthcare system was not just particular to me. Many, many others had also fallen in to, or on the verge of falling in to that “black hole”. I didn’t want to start climbing up a ladder to only find it was leaning against the wrong wall.

Think about this for a second. You’re seated on an airplane, let’s say, going to Chicago. The flight attendant asks for your attention. She (or he) directs your attention to the oxygen mask in her hand. Her first priority is to make sure each and every person understands they are to place it on themselves first.

Why Is That?

Because you can never help anyone else unless you help yourself first!


Okay, just how do I do that, you ask?

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